I am a chicken. I have completely dropped the ball on writing any home school posts for months and months. It’s not like we aren’t still home schooling, it’s just that I have not been sure what to write about.
I kind of have this fear that I will miss lead someone. That my advice perhaps isn’t really all that valuable, and that perhaps I am completely boring you all by posting on it.
I AM TOTALLY CHICKEN IN THIS REGARD.
I am chicken to admit, that it has taken me twelve years, until his senior year, to come to terms with our son’s dyslexia. For a long time I was sure it was ME that was causing it. That I was doing something horribly wrong, and that if I just worked long enough, and hard enough everything would be alright and he would suddenly become normal and learning would be a piece of cake for him.
I tried different curricula each year, sure that there was one out there that would FIT his needs.
None of them did.
I tried tutors and expensive private lessons certain that it would help.
It didn’t change anything at all.
I tried waiting to teach him certain subjects. I was sure that with maturity, his ability to comprehend would improve.
Time didn’t change how he learns. It is still a struggle. He is still different than the rest of the crowd.
I have finally come to the realization that he will always be dyslexic.
Nothing will change that.
The difference is, he has now learned how to deal with his disability. So have I. We now know what he has to do to learn, it is a different path than most students will take. But he wants to take it. He loves learning. Despite his struggles, against all odds, he continues to learn.
All my worries and fears have come to a head this senior year.
I was incredibly chicken when it came to his future. How would he survive? I was worried about him getting into college. Or if he should even GO to college. It turns out, I was worried for nothing.
I was worried about him taking the SAT/ACT tests.
Would he be able to perform to the best of his ability? Probably not. Then we found out, there are many colleges who don’t require test scores for entrance. You can find that list here. There are hundreds of colleges on the list. This was a huge relief to us, as getting accommodations for a dyslexic to take the test is long, complicated, time consuming and expensive. Particularly when you are a home schooler and do not have access to the resources within the public school system.
I was worried about him being accepted at college.
Getting him into college was FAR easier than I thought. He applied at one school and was accepted. No problem. I was shocked, I was prepared for a long list of disappointing rejections and heart ache.
I was worried about him being able to afford college.
There is nothing more daunting than the scholarship and financial aid applications. I was sure he would struggle in this area.After all, who is going to offer a scholarship to a dyslexic student with average grades (even if he worked incredibly hard for those average grades), when they could give one to the over achiever, the jock, the super efficient, A+ student who learns at the drop of a hat?
You will be surprised by this answer.
He has received nearly 75% of his tuition in scholarship money from various sources.
I was chicken for nothing.
I practically worried myself to death. I prayed and cried and was sure he would not have any sort of future. For years and years I was certain of this. Now, I know differently.
What a lack of trust I had. God has provided him with everything he needs to be successful. Why was I so doubtful for so long? It is hard to see the plans God has for those in your life at times.
He may have to have tutors, or hire people to type assignments for him. He may have to listen to his text books on audio instead of reading them. He may have to do visual presentations, hands on presentations or labs instead of writing and extensive research. He may have to study twice as hard as everyone else, and get half the grade in the end. But, he will not give up. His dyslexia has taught him that.
He will be successful, because he knows how to work through his struggles.
Statistics show that it’s the AVERAGE JOE student that becomes successful in the long run. It’s not the super successful high school jock who goes out to take on the world. Mathematics has proven that those students who were over achievers in high school are so used to being successful they don’t know how to work through the problems and struggles that they will face later in life. They will eventually become disillusioned, and give up. They will become the AVERAGE JOE.
I had a friend who lost her father at a young age. When he passed on, his resume and list of accomplishments was a MILE LONG.
He held a doctorate in Political Science.
He was a tenured professor at a major top ten university.
He immigrated to this country as a young man, got married, had children, worked his way though college, was highly educated, was one of the most respected men in his field of business, wrote books and lectures, started a non profit organization, was very financially successful.
He was an inspiration to everyone around him. There were hundreds of people at his funeral from all around the world.
HE WAS DYSLEXIC. I was shocked to find out that HE COULD NEITHER READ NOR WRITE EFFICIENTLY.
Yet, he had accomplished more in his lifetime than all of his peers, the stellar A+ students, combined.
I am thrilled to announce, I am no longer chicken.
Linking up today over at Trivium Tuesdays on Living and Learning at Home.